Repeatedly resorting to out-dated coping methods such as angry abuse or shutting down in hurt silence as an immediate way to fix these hideous feelings is certainly not to fix your life. In fact, it will always complicate the problem.  So those who would press on to maturity are going to have to learn how to bear - even make friends with - their unbearable feeling, by coaching themselves through and discovering how to disarm them. 

Unbearable Feelings